what exactly is wrong with this post genuinely what problem is there like are u good do u need something
It’s amatonormative because it says “love is the most important thing ever.” No exceptions, no caveats, no “this is how it is for me but hey you do you.” Amatonormativity is the idea that everyone wants love, that everyone is hardwired for it, and it’s so pervasive that when the aromantic community said “maybe don’t put love on a pedestal?”, everyone went “we’ll just add all the other types of love to the pedestal, you should be happy now!” and then got mad when we weren’t.
If love is super important to you, then that’s fine! Still examine yourself for amatonormative impulses because they’re probably there, etc, and you may even find something else is more important to you. But don’t tell other people that it has to be important to them, too.
And… love really isn’t the most important thing ever. Yes, even platonic love. Even familial love. Even just “having love in ur heart.” Nothing is the most important thing ever, because everyone has different priorities, and that’s okay! It’s absolutely fine if you find fulfillment in kindness or compassion or happiness or a combination of those or something else entirely. You’re not doing anything wrong.
